KAD

Yes, they do, and they will. I think it's not even just because non-addicts don't understand addiction, it's because alcoholism is such a destructive illness, not only in our individual lives but for all those who are in our lives. When we are in recovery - and odds are it isn't our first try - people are paranoid that the devil is going to rear it's ugly head again. They may or may not forgive, but it's pretty much impossible for them to forget. This, of course, doesn't pardon them of their own faults and shortcomings, or suggest that they're any less destructive. But that's their responsibility. All we can take care of is our side of the street. Sometimes that means we have to sever some ties, as well, if/when relationships become toxic or non-productive.