There's no reason not to explore help for YOU, though, is there? I mean, you don't have to decide whether he is, or isn't, an alcoholic to know that his drinking worries you and upsets you. That's all the "qualification" you need, in order to benefit from Al-Anon. There's no requirement that your husband be an alcoholic, or any degree of "problem drinker"--the only requirement is that you are affected by someone else's drinking. I think you'd find it very much a relief to meet others who are dealing with the same kinds of worries--and especially those who have found a solution (hint: the "solution" isn't always leaving the alcoholic--at least not right away).