Is alcohol causing PROBLEMS in YOUR life? regardless of whether YOU drink or not? then alcohol is a problem. period.
we may not be able to do much to help you help your husband, but we can help YOU.
you have every right to be concerned with a baby coming. while what you report doesn't sound SUPER excessive, you also may not be seeing ALL that he drinks OR his tolerance may be shot and it doesn't take that much to get him drunk.
falling asleep with the stove/oven on is a dangerous thing. i also think his sleep regulation argument is BS. he drinks because he LIKES it. or because he has progressed to NEEDING it.
i have yet to see ONE story here of an alcoholic or problem drinker sobering up WHEN the baby arrives....often it sets off even MORE drinking.
are you close with his mom? is she aware of any of this? i only ask because if she is in recovery, she MAY be able to offer some suggestions for HIM.