Well, not every impulse to control is malicious or nefarious. I DO see him as a bit controlling, in the sense of wanting to persuade you that he has the solution to all of your problems. That doesn't mean he's abusive or thinks you're an idiot, but it does run the risk of not allowing you to experience the good and bad consequences of your own decisions--which is how we learn to be confident in managing our own lives.
So I really do get what your concern is--it may be coming from a place of love but it might not be what you need for yourself.