Originally Posted by
Yours Truly 
The thing is, I'm not really interested in boundaries. If he doesn't contact me I'll eagerly walk and probably have some damage control to do over the contact we have had. I did ambulance work for five years, and although I shouldn't label myself as a rescuer, I'm almost counting on him contacting me because he knows my vulnerabilities in that regard. If he does I won't be able to walk and I'll bitterly and grudgingly have to prepare with that with some boundaries. Bitterly and grudgingly I say, because at the end of the day it will all be a waste of time. It's not like I don't have better things to do, like work on ME.
I will say this as tactfully as I can, you know I care...not having boundaries, not protecting our own body, mind and spirit with boundaries that will keep us healthy and safe..is a huge obstacle to recovery. It sets us up to be doormats and leaves us "reacting" to their words and actions instead of "responding (or not)" with what is healthy for us.
YoursTruly...take a read of your posts in this thread and see how many times you are anticipating what someone else will say or do or react to a situation. That leaves you very vulnerable when things don't unfold as you anticipate...or when they do.
Why not decide what is healthy for you, what brings you peace from all of this, and then do what you need to do to take very good care of yourself?
All the analysis in the world of somebody else's behaviour won't help you deal with your own until you come to accept that the only person you can change here, is
you. You are worth the effort it will take.