I found counseling with a psychiatrist and counselor who specializes in helping families with addiction the only type of counseling that helped me. I went alone. So that no matter what happened in my family, I would be prepared to handle it. It did help, very much.
Many counselors are surprisingly ignorant of addiction and how it affects a family. Don't waste your money if they are not well versed in the manipulation that comes with living life with an addict.