I have discovered in sobriety that I'm actually an introvert. It surprised me. I always thought I wanted and needed to be around people. Really, it was that I didn't like being alone because I didn't like myself much, and spending time alone made me antsy and anxious. And I needed people to validate me. Now that I've stopped doing things that make me feel bad about myself, I'm slowly gaining some self-respect and l don't hate myself. My own company is just fine now. And I realize that I do better with big chunks of alone time to just think and be calm. And continue sorting out who I am. I don't need other people to validate my "goodness" or "worthiness" as a person. I can find that within myself most of the time now. So when I do spend time with other people, I'm not saddling them with any sort of burden to make me feel better. It has improved all of my relationships.