Good post Best...
Yes...
I was also very careful about not entering the relationship between my daughter and her dad.... and I tried really hard not to bad mouth him .... and I think I did mostly okay..
We need to help children to understand that it is a three fold disease that is the root of the problems... and not that their parent is evil... or doesn't love them...
Children need the truth first and formost to break the cycle of codependancy...
The last thing they need is to be dragged too and fro by their parents character defects that are already a dynamic and in place...
Stay watchful... and one can be there to dry the tears... and listen...
.. but.. reality and truth should be the order of the day...