Been a while
I always hope that I will come back here with positive news but looking back, that never seems to be the case. Actually, it is good that I have put some of our experiences in writing. Sometimes I lose perspective. My AH returned from treatment and stayed sober for two months. Then began the pot smoking and then drinking. That was 15 months ago. Last week he got a dui and then the next day was stopped for driving without a license and our vehicle was seized. Aside from the legal and financial implications, I was grateful that no one was injured and that maybe this is rock bottom. My children were hopeful too. My son actually said that he was relieved that this is the end. Unfortunately, the drinking has not stopped and he has become even more self-absorbed than he was before. This happened at the start of our much needed vacation which we had to return from. He has apologized but he doesn't understand the gravity. I constantly try to shield the children ( ages 14 and 10) from the chaos and I am exhausted. He says that he will eventually stop drinking but we are all out of patience and understanding.