I was the "golden child" and then rebelled so my dad was not happy with me. It was all good and praise when I was knocking out straight As and was pretty and well mannered, but when I started to feel that something was really wrong and didn't want to be a puppet anymore things went really south.
I started drinking, smoking, having sex, sneaking out of the house. The root cause of my rebellion was never addressed or spoken about (my A mother and the dysfunction of our family). I became the scapegoat and heard some pretty mean things from my father.
"What is wrong with you"
"You won't amount to anything"
"You don't have a clue" (then when I asked him to explain he wouldn't)
"Who do you think you are"
"You're going to be nothing but a bum like your mother"
"You used to be so smart"
Throw in some physical abuse and you get the picture.
I believe that what I'm feeling isn't 100% about the exA but it's the easiest thing to point at right now. I feel so wronged by him right now. He knew what I dealt with growing up and I didn't get much better from him. It was the same type of emotional stonewalling and "what is wrong with you" type behavior, just with a different face