It’s very scary and it’s very sad when we are faced with major life decisions where the outcome is never guaranteed.
Life with an addict is gloom and doom and it will always be like that – no guarantees. It goes way beyond 11 months, it goes on for life.
Rehab is not a cure, AA meetings are not a permanent fix. It’s never as simple as just stop drinking/drugging go to the best rehab then attend some meetings then everything is just wonderful, no, that’s not life with an addict.
And not labeling someone as an addict doesn’t make him not be one, no matter how much you wish to believe that. Protecting him from the consequences of HIS actions is not helping him, we continue to tell you that and now his probation officer is telling you the same thing.
He’s got a rough road ahead and only one that can be traveled by him. Currently he is not showing very positive response to wanting to actually stop drinking/drugging but rather is being “forced” into it by the courts.
In time, more will be revealed no matter which rehab he attends, no matter how much you buy into his BS eventually the truth will become visible. 11 1/2 months from now or the day after his probation ends is when that truth might rear it's ugly head.