TFM,
Are you asking back all the things you gave him? Forget it. It was a gift and I would not give it back. All he will do is sell it.
It does get better, but it takes time and a lot of work. I am 1 3/4 years post divorce and the last couple months I finally came to terms with it. I feel great realizing that we were two different people who wanted two different life paths. He lived for the moment, I wanted security. I was never like that, he was and I changed my goals for him.
Work every day on recovery. Even if it is 10 minutes a day on SR. It will slowly all fall into place the way it's suppose. Hugs my friend!!