TimeForMe..... DRATS! I tried for 30minutes to post the link, above, for you....and , for some reason, it isn't working!!
Try this---go to the stickies at the top of the thread page
Then click the one (near the top) called "Classic Reading"
Read the one called "Are you wondering when the pain stops?"
My short answer to this question is this....Basically, it gradually reduces to a bearable stage over the course of the first year...in gradual increments.
What has to happen in this first year of grieving is that you will begin to create a new life for your self....a new normal....and you will live in the present....
I agree that the more contact that you have with him...the longer it takes...
dandylion