I'm with those who says there has to be some consequences. I've seen enablers put no boundaries on adult addicts & alkies and what happens is they expect them to literally pay for their mistakes. They just don't want them to help them or go to them because they are easy they develop a sense of entitlement or undeserved expectation they will be bailed out. Once at this stage it's harder to say NO and harder to accept NO from the alkie's/addict's standpoint.
Sober is good. Learning to cope or be independent is just as good.