Originally Posted by
LifeRecovery 
Rae-
In reality though it was INCREDIBLY painful the affair was a blessing. He married his affair partner very soon after our divorce (within months). Though I ached and hurt when I heard about his new upcoming marriage it allowed the romance of "What if he finds recovery...." a little less place in my mind.
It helped to force me to keep the focus on me and my healing, and in the long run THAT has made all the difference.
This is my story as well. AXH married his affair choice, and they have lived miserably ever after. I always wondered the "what if he finds recovery" part as well, but many, many years later, he still hasn't and they are truly miserable. For a while that gave me satisfaction, but now I generally just feel sorry for them. And I'm happy to say I am long over him and the hellish pain of their affair. Time really does heal those wounds.