CentralOhioDad-
A wise teacher once said to me. "It is to late to have a happy childhood, BUT it is never to late to have a happy adulthood."
In one fell swoop she placed the responsibility of me to work through my childhood, but also gave me hope that my past did not have to dictate my future.
There is a difference between working through your stuff and being stuck in your stuff. I suspect she is in the latter.