What a difference a week makes
Last weekend I posted regarding my fear that my ABF (sober for 7 months) was starting a new relationship with a 'friend' from AA.
While I knew I was on the verge of obsessing about it, I realized that I needed to take a step back, pray on how to handle the situation, and let it go...It took alot of control on my part, but I got thru the week.
Man... it was a huge struggle but I got thru it and this weekend has been great!. We talked on Friday night and made plans for Sat to go to a Aviation Museum in the area and have dinner. Sat Am after attending his Men's only meeting he called to tell me that the open meeting last night was having a guest speaker ( a former sports celebrity from the area) that he would like to hear.
(He had mentioned early in his recovery about us going to the open Sat night meetings but when it came time to go, he always changed his mind).
So I told him, I would love to go with him if he wanted me to and he was comfortable with it. I had decided that if he started to back down again on it, I would tell him that I would go home, so he could go alone since it was apparent to me that he wanted to attend (my opinion, if he wasn't interested he wouldn't have mentioned it).
But we went and I got to meet his sponsor for the first time which was really nice. His sponsor said to me, "It's nice to finally meet you, He's said alot of nice things about you" and I'm thinking to myself "It would be nice if he said those things to me as welll".. but oh well.... at least I know I'm not some deep dark secret he keeps...lol
I also got to meet some of the guys that he has mentioned. The speaker was interesting. And I am glad that he is opening up a little part of his life that I feel like he has kept me out of. I think that was a big step for him.
The interesting thing is I was not introduced to any females.. In fact, I'm not sure he even acknowledged knowing any of them very well. So either the 'friend' was not there, or she knew to stand back....There I go with my imagination again.. please forgive me! lol...
Anyway, this has shown me that I can worry over something I have no control over, or I can pray for guidance to do the right thing, (which I feel I did).
It was not easy but it really works if you try!