I would never tell someone not to do the steps I did them at 8 years sober and I still have the same sponsor 17 years later.
I have seen dozens of people go out on step 4 so do not do it until you are ready, one alcoholic sharing there experience strength and hope with each other is all that is needed to get sober.
If you can not accept AA try LifeRing or SmartRecovery at least check out them out online.
I use all 3 programs 4 counting SR and I get what I need to stay sober.
good luck