I agree about how difficult it is to stop enabling. I have been told the most loving thing we can do is kick them out. However, that is easier said than done. The reason ours is still with us is that his most recent rehab was his own initiative and that shows movement in the right direction. Also, he is cooperating at applying for subsidized housing. Plus he is living by house rules we setup. He has applied for disability and has attorneys helping him with that. It depresses him to think the rest of his life is just disability and menial jobs, but he is proceeding anyway. That will take some time because most disability cases take about 1.5 years and you get turned down more than once, having to appeal the case. Hopefully your brother can take some steps to get on his own, but it sounds like your dad is going to have to toughen up. It's hard.