jon, i see that you've been here since 2008....and that every time things go south for your son, you end up letting him come back home. so that he can get his sh#t together......again. i understand you fear for his ability to survive on his own, but he also knows that he doesn't have to try THAT hard, because he can always come home......and not have to be fiscally prudent or worry about paying the rent, or where his next meal is coming from, or holding down a job..........
he can instead make stupid choices and not pay the consequences.
what if you viewed him as a capable adult? and if he wants to drive a POS car, fine. and if he thinks he needs $70 sunglasses fine. and if he's going to drink himself into the gutter, fine. he's not a boy any more.....he's almost 40. what he does with HIS life......is HIS life.