Jonbald...I think that ADD and a very high IQ presents a challenge in terms of employment....especially, if he doesn't have many specific job skills for jobs that would utilize his intelligence, and accommodate his attention/physical needs..
I would think that a sober living situation would be a better enviro nment than living in the parental home......
I think that any parent would be in over their head with this kind of situation.....
dandylion
***There is a good website that has tons of information and forums (sort of like SR)....
www.ADDitude.com. You might want to check that o ut....this is not an uncommon situation! It also lends itself to drugs or alcohol as a self medication of all the symptoms that you mentioned.