For me, I know I started feeling much better physically when I chose sobriety. Your plate is full? All the more reason to forego the drinks. I know it seems like drinking soothes your stress or provides an escape hatch, but that is the very thing which causes the most stress inside your mind and soul.
Instead of trying to manage the issues and afflictions of others, why not try dealing with your alcohol issue first?
I had alot going on in my life, but it's funny - once you commit "today, I will NOT drink no matter what" and make that your guiding force for awhile, things start falling into place. I started looking at things and questioning whether or not they were a threat to my sobriety, and if they were, they had to go.