She sounds like SUCH a drag... just exhausting to be around a person like this. I agree with the others that maybe it's time to tell her TOUGH... you're going to start living your life the way you want. She's going to be all Pity Pouty Whiner-Butt about anything anyway -- and TELL her that! And as for her not doing things around the house anymore, if I were you, I'd just live like she's not even there knowing you'll be responsible for X, Y and Z and you taking care of everything yourself. After long, you'll be like "what do I even need her around for anymore?" Many here who've split with their spouse but were afraid of all the "extra" they'd have to do actually found they had much LESS to do... because they were taking care of everything anyway without having to clean up their A spouse's messes.