Desertsong, all I can do is encourage and reinforce what you know so well, keep up the good work.
I am now a caregiver to my Dad who has dementia and poor health from congestive heart heart failure etc, so I can relate...somewhat.
Everyone says one of the most important things caregivers are condstantly told to do is take care of themselves; so much easier ssaid than done!!!
"The 36 hour day" is a well regarded reference book for caregivers of dementia/alzhiemers. I mention it only because the title pretty much sums it up. Caregiving requires us to be fully aligned in that role for 36 hours of a 24 hour day.
So here we are, and what can we do? The best for ourselves, as it is only though honesty that we can be present for those we love and cae for'
Off to see Dad and spend some quality Dad/Son time...!