Originally Posted by
Sunshine1234 
I'm just curious what others would say if they could go back and give advice to your then self during the time you were in the chaos of your relationship with your addicted significant other. Also, would love to hear from those who have children since I am in the midst of an ugly fight with my AH and we have two small children.
My addicted loved one was/is my son.
Advice?
"Back off, back wayyyyy off and let him figure this all out by himself!"
"Stop trying to rescue him, you deny him the lessons he needs to learn!"
"Stop making yourself sick trying to control the outcome, it is not your to control!"
"You are a good person, remember that and just take better care of yourself."
The thing is, would I have listened? Probably not, my ears were plugged with denial.
That said, recovery has brought me to a good place I would never have found without the problems that led me here. A strangely wrapped gift, indeed.
Hugs