He is NOT in recovery. He is a manipulator and trying to control you to get what he wants. Don't believe his words...believe his actions. I know it's hard because you want to believe he is truthful. However actions speak louder than words and what he is showing you is someone who wants to take the easy way put. What a sick person to emotionally abuse you by threatening self harm. Ugh.... what a selfish ass. Sorry but I have personal experience with this manipulation. Go with your gut....it never lies.