Originally Posted by
Andante 
To me, this is the only relevant issue here.
He will stop drinking when he wants to be sober more than he wants to be drunk, and whatever spin, definition, or label you put on his drinking won't make the slightest difference.
All you can change is how you choose to view and deal with the situation. Have you considered Al-Anon?
Congrats on your 2 months!
Thank you on the congrats, Andante! I go to a counselor who specializes in alcoholism, and I also attend a Women for Sobriety meeting. I have not gone to an Al-Anon meeting. That's for families of alcoholics?