Originally Posted by
biminiblue 
Just because he hasn't become mean and abusive yet, doesn't mean it isn't on the horizon.
At some point I would imagine you will want to draw a line in the sand about this, but if it were me I'd give myself a year of sobriety and observation and planning before doing so. Are you able to comfortably leave (not saying you should right now, but) if he does become abusive? Why not start putting together a plan for your own security and future so that you are prepared should something happen to/with him. It really is a matter of time before either his physical or emotional health takes a nosedive.
Congratulations on your own sobriety. That's huge.
Thank you, BiminiBlue. I wouldn't hesitate to leave if things got abusive. My prediction is that his health will fail before anything else, but I am no prophet. I like your idea of giving my own sobriety a year, and observing in the meantime. I still need to manage my own sobriety in all of this.
Thank you!