The way I see it is the addict has been cheating on their spouse. Booze or another woman, whats the difference? Either way something is coming between them and their spouse.
I have hit my limit too. AW was talking about moving out a month ago into one of our empty rental units. I reluctantly agreed but she never did it. Well she is on another binge. This time when she sobers up I am doing everything I can to encourage her to voluntarily move out. If it means being an ass hole to her, so be it. I have hit my limit and cant take it any more.