Thanks for the input August. It' hard to read tone in a written message, which is low on the hierarchy of communications, so I can understand your take on it. My goal in the post was to be as clear as possible, seeing all the inquiries on SR about whether or not someone should continue a relationship with an AH.
Sometimes you need to use crayons to get your message across to the love struck. In this case, you need to use hand grenades to wake them up to the life-changing disaster they're facing if they make the wrong choice. Harsh, but hopefully effective.
Peace