The last time my dad saw them, they still hadn't actually looked for anywhere.
Now, therein lies the rub. As long as others do for them what they could and should do for themselves, they will not even try to make a better life.
They are not trying and yet everyone who loves them are worried and trying to figure out how to help.
I can't make anyone's choice for them, but maybe just letting this unfold on its own would be a good plan. They know where real help is, when they are ready. There are free recovery programs everywhere, the Salvation army has a good rehab and program and there are meetings every day in all areas of the country.
It is very hard to watch those we love self-destruct, I know how it hurt me to watch my son, but the thing is...if we get too close and stay there, we will be destroyed with them.
My prayers go out for your family.
Hugs