Originally Posted by
NYCDoglvr 
I can relate to that. The big change was I really really listened to what the other person was saying instead of focusing on what he thought of me. More important is what I think of him.
I've noticed that too. I'm not fully there, I still need to remind myself that what I think is whats more important.
I feel like I'm data-mining in a way. I observe and listen. I take all the information in and then used it to form an opinion based on data more than on feelings. The only feeling that's more important than all that data is my gut feeling. The minute something tell me "NOP, that's not for you", I'll be sure to listen to it.
I try to be myself and not act how I feel the person in front of me would like me to act. If they don't like it, not my problem. And when it gets a bit harder for me to do, I just repeat to myself "Not my circus, not my monkeys", as the perception others have of me is just that : their perception.