Venecia. ..I know what you are saying. I have felt the same way...off kilter....embedded memories. It's kind of a lonely feeling. I was closeted also.....in public i would be professional and in control...then i loved to go home alone to my best friend, the wine bottle. But, then I think it through and the empty, lonely feeling turns to gratitude and joy to be free from that. I am very grateful. And I have no hangovers!