HopingforCure.....I suggest that you get a copy of "Co-dependent No More"......it is a sort of "bible" in these parts. I think a lot will resound for you....
You can get it at the library or a cheap used copy on amazon.com......
No, alcoholism is NOT like cancer......
You do not have the ability to get him to quit drinking..
3 C's. You didn't Cause it; You can't Cure it; and, you can't Control it......
Love, alone, is not enough. If it were...there wouldn't be a forum of loved ones like us!!
If he is doing this to "get you back".....guess what....as soon as he is confident that you are back in the bag.....it will all resume, again......
I hope that you will keep reading and learning......
Knowledge is power
dandylion