my mom had 3 brothers, one older, two younger. however she and uncle C always
argued who was the older. my mom wanted to be the matriarch.
my mom also had a "sh!t list" - people with whom she had some issue (known only to her).
there was always someone at the top of the list.....but since her list wasn't THAT long, you knew sooner or later you were due up. i always felt bad for whoever was the focus of her wrath, aka #1....and dang the woman made her point, fearless, at a whopping 5'4".
the rules of the "sh!tlist" were never explained, there was no training, you just watched the dynamics. survival skills....nobody teaches a baby fish how to swim.