There was this chap who had been sober many years when a felt another bout of depression coming on. He wondered why his program didn't seem to work to make him feel happier, and he applied a lot of thought and meditation to the matter, especially the St Francis prayer.
He eventually realised he had to break all dependencies on things human, even the people in his program. Instead he began to walk hand in hand with the spirit of the universe.
With all this happening, another great realisation came to him.
Emotional stability came from giving, not receiving.
Quite a few of us have since learned this truth.