I had to take charge of my sobriety and I had to do it alone. When I say alone understand this means IRL which is rather a big deal. I hate even watching shows like "Intervention" because it makes me mad to see all these people with an entire cheering section of caring family members and friends that have tried many times to get the addict to stop.
But me, totally solo. Nobody who knows who I am or where I am from, or where I am coming from. I think those that have it can be very dismissive of those who do not. It's just plain ignorance.