I can relate. But you're right, nobody made me pour alcohol down my throat, I did that myself. I was (am still) angry I haven't gotten more encouragement and support to quit. They basically act like I don't even have a problem, despite all the evidence supporting it.
For me, I have to find support where I can, places like here. And take responsibility. Like I said, I was the one who drank. And I'm the one who has to stay sober. But I understand the difficulty it creates.
I wish I could offer more of a solution. At only almost 3 months, I'm still sorting through the mess myself. But I hope you're able to sort it out.
Maybe give AA a try? There's support there.