You've got to really want it. As in tears and utter despair type stuff. Then you've got to adopt the attitude of whatever it takes. You must make sobriety your number 1 priority every minute of every day. I do a meeting every day. I'm an alcoholic 24 hours a day and I won't risk it. I go on SR every day. I pray every day, several times a day in my head or out loud. You can't mess around with this stuff, it'll kick your *** every time. Get serious and you'll get the sobriety you deserve and the life to match.