Basically I stayed far too long because I didn’t know any better and when we know better we do better. Today I celebrate 3 years of no contact and a happy calm life that I thoroughly enjoy!!!
I didn’t know anything about addiction.
I had no idea it was a lifelong disease and would always be a battle for him.
I had no idea it was a disease like no other and couldn't be compared to other diseases.
I didn’t know that with each relapse, he got worse and it was harder to recover.
I didn’t know that it was ok to love someone and not be present in their life.
I didn’t know that just because I loved him that I didn’t need to “feel” responsible for him.
I didn’t know that just because I loved him that I didn’t need to “feel” obligated to him and accept unacceptable behavior.
I didn’t realize it was ok for me to leave and not “feel” guilty about doing that.
And again, I didn’t know anything about addiction……………….