oh yeah. It's frustrating. Here's what has worked for me, and maybe you're already doing this. I talk to enabler of the moment, in a calm and stress free moment. I reiterate the importance of meetings, give them an opportunity to vent their frustration, and then agree on a schedule. I give that person the schedule weekly, get their buy in, and then do my thing. Let them deal with their own inner struggle. Not easy as I am a codependent and want to make everyone happy. But AA is a must. I have found that the enable adjusts over time. And my guilt for actually taking care of me lessens.