Queenbee......this man will bring you nothing but MORE pain and heartbreak.
Yes, the condoms were his and the phone was his.
He is using you.
The only way to avoid destruction at his hands is to go total No Contact. If you talk to him---you lose (again)......
I am a medical professional....so, I feel an obligation to advise you to get checked out for std's.......
It is impossible to know what diseases he has come in contact with.
You are going to have to face the short-term pain for the long-term gain......
dandylion