Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
mama...
To amplify Hopeful's point a bit...you had an opportunity to break free of the madness by being honest with the police. And it's not that you couldn't say anything. It's you opted not to say anything. Who does that serve? How does that promote wellness? What lesson does this teach your children? That it's OK to lie to law enforcement so long as it protects a parent who didn't hesitate to compromise his children?
I do not say this as criticism, mama. My intention is to get you to listen to yourself. You know that the status quo with your husband is untenable. You know that he is not going to change. So the only person in this situation who can change is you. And yes, it's scary, because the unknown is always scary. But the truth is you're running out of breathing room and you're running out of time. It's time...far past time, mama...that you act.
Remember: we've got your back, but the heavy lifting is up to you.