Hi Whiteturtle! Sorry you're having such an overwhelming night! Maybe letting go of some of the control would help ease your anxiety. Let him run the show and just roll with it for tonight? Anything that isn't "just so" can always be "re-done" later....your sobriety and peace of mind are more important. I'm a lot the same way....have my way of doing things and its hard to let someone else take the wheel....I'm working on letting go (especially the small stuff) and trying to learn to detach myself from expectations (except for my sobriety of course).