Originally Posted by redatlanta

Understand that this situation is common in relationships that don't involve addiction or alcoholism. You matured, he did not. You want to grow, he wants to stay the same. You want to work on your personal issues, he wants to continue to do what he's doing without working on his. It doesn't have anything to do with whether he loved you or your relationship was real. It was. Its not that he jumped ship - YOU jumped ship in deciding that status quo wasn't working for you anymore.

All a matter of perspective. Congrats on your journey!