I have just been doing some reading on codependency. I'm not sure that I'm totally convinced that I have all of the characteristics.
I don't have ALL the characteristics either, but I have enough of them to have caused me trouble all along, and working on those characteristics I DO have is definitely making things go better in my life. Labels are labels, what matters is what
works, IMHO.
And maybe codependency really
isn't part of the problem for you. One size doesn't fit all, that is for sure...