I'm really finding all of this interesting and helpful. I'm going to bring this up with my counsellor next week. I've been having a few phone sessions with a counsellor which is somewhat helpful. I have just been doing some reading on codependency. I'm not sure that I'm totally convinced that I have all of the characteristics. But I'm willing to explore this further. I don't find myself to be needy or controlling. But I wonder waft my BF would say. Really thank you for all of this info. It's very helpful.