Originally Posted by
fgh55 
Thank you all for responding. I guess it is a pretty hopeless situation. Chances of him getting better seem slim to none from what I'm hearing. Hard to hear but I guess the truth is what I need.
Sometimes educating yourself with alcoholism, drug abuse, codependency, etc. really gives a lot of insight to a very difficult situation. Often we find ourselves in terrible relationships and end up the victims but there has also been lots of studies and information out there if you just look about women with similar situations as yours. We too have a big part to play, it does take two to tango. Many strong, confident, happy, independent women would just run at the first signs of alcoholism, abuse, infidelity, drugs. Why do we stay, and keep staying time and again? Why is it that we keep lowering that bar when once upon a time certain things were a deal-breaker? More importantly than to find a solution of how to change him, working on yourself to become the best you is key.