Well they sure are reacting to this like alcoholics. Making your recovery all about themselves, attempting to manipulate the situation in dishonest ways, and having childish tantrums about it where they attempt to control others because their projections about the situation cause them to be scared that you think badly of them or hold them in some way accountable.
(I'm coming to this with the perspective of a double winner by the way. Alcoholic in recovery living with a 'heavy drinker').
This one is a good example of serenity prayer time. You cannot change them, only yourself. All you can do is the next best thing.