Family is who you create-who you make it to be. Sometimes our blood family, our FOO, keeps us sick. That's a reason to get healthy and create a new family. Congrats on your sobriety. Hopefully your blood family will open their eyes to their own denial and issues-but that's not your problem. Parents are supposed to instill truth and good morals in us-your mother telling you to lie is quite the opposite. I wish you nothing but the best in your journey.